tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post4282471400894607899..comments2024-03-03T12:52:18.548-05:00Comments on Magpie Musing: NamesMagpiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-4988299937318167672007-04-05T12:43:00.000-04:002007-04-05T12:43:00.000-04:00Hi Magpie,This happens to me sometimes too. But th...Hi Magpie,<BR/><BR/>This happens to me sometimes too. But then sometimes my husband gets called Mr. Isis, which we both find really funny.<BR/><BR/>I'm enjoying discovering your blog. Thanks for coming to visit mine.Isishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12050282354531898285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-4187456154043168122007-04-03T18:08:00.000-04:002007-04-03T18:08:00.000-04:00I have my mother's maiden name. I wish I had given...I have my mother's maiden name. I wish I had given my daughter the nme too. The only problem I've ever run across is when people ask for your mother's maiden name and you give them your last name and they so " No, your mother's maiden name."Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01467579064187066741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-80009281111541120372007-03-29T22:07:00.000-04:002007-03-29T22:07:00.000-04:00Hi Magpie, found you via Niobe.The patronymic, the...Hi Magpie, found you via Niobe.<BR/><BR/>The patronymic, the patronymic, it's a pet peeve of mine that my hetero feminist friends all keep their names then give them to their kids as middle names while dad's name is the last name. But what are you going to do about other people's compromises? <BR/><BR/><BR/>We're both women, the dynamics are different, but we wanted the same name for everyone and did a last name hybrid for euphony--both our last names end in the same syllable so the hyphen thing wasn't going to work. We more or less alternated letters from the beginning of each name and preserved the common ending. Then each of us kept our own original names, too, Rodham Clinton style. That was maybe more complicated than necessary, but I think we were kind of hesitant about whether our chimera would take. But it has. <BR/><BR/>Because I birthed her, in the NICU our daughter was "Baby Girl MyOriginalLastName OurFamilyName," which I admit I liked.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-173212080757588972007-03-29T16:02:00.000-04:002007-03-29T16:02:00.000-04:00precisely. who cares about the judgments of right ...precisely. who cares about the judgments of right leaning churchgoers, or really anyone else for that matter. i say revel in your own last name.pinknesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16155323361162991339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-61153099393583920552007-03-29T11:04:00.000-04:002007-03-29T11:04:00.000-04:00People get confused by unorthodoxy. It's just the ...People get confused by unorthodoxy. It's just the way of things. And it's always awkward to have to explain yourself to people who don't share your values. <BR/><BR/>I did the traditional thing with the names, but even so people are constantly getting it wrong. I moved my (unusual) maiden name to my middle name, but for my grad school and at the hospital giving birth, I still somehow got labeled as Mrs. MyMaidenName. I don't understand the problem. Oh yeah, the problem is that other people are stupid. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, I admire you for your decision. I had always planned not to change my name, but when the time came it seemed fun and I don't regret it. But I certainly did it in part to fit in and not to have to explain myself (I live in the deep south).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-59178891416081936092007-03-29T10:55:00.000-04:002007-03-29T10:55:00.000-04:00Because it's just awkward. And who likes that?It's...Because it's just awkward. And who likes that?<BR/><BR/>It's not hard to take a quick second to think and ask rather than assume.<BR/><BR/>It's not hard to take a quick second and ask, "Do you have a preference how my child addresses you?"<BR/><BR/>But then...we'd all have to think, and think that there are multiple ways that are okay. And not assume there is One Right Way (read: mine).<BR/><BR/>Was that too ranty?<BR/><BR/>I don't know if you ever read My Beloved Monster & Me (the latest incarnation of Rob's long-running blog) (he started it I think even before he and his wife married, sheesh probably ten years ago?) but I like what he and his wife did: merged their names.<BR/><BR/>http://www.schuylersmonsterblog.com/<BR/><BR/>I know another couple who took their two names and made a new one, too.<BR/><BR/>And plenty of people who keep their own name.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-83041736225669253602007-03-29T09:19:00.000-04:002007-03-29T09:19:00.000-04:00I didn't change my name when I got married either....I didn't change my name when I got married either. But that choice has never raised any eyebrows in my Indigo Blue corner of my Cobalt Blue state. So I can't help you there. <BR/><BR/>Our girl twin got my last name on her birth and death certificates. We didn't have to make a decision for our boy twin, since he was stillborn, but, I suppose, I would have given him my last name as well.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-54070963317227226012007-03-28T22:03:00.000-04:002007-03-28T22:03:00.000-04:00Is the entire blogosphere talking about this today...Is the entire blogosphere talking about this today? I just commented over at Natural Scientist, and YES, I do think that patriarchy applies if you have a last name from either of your parents, because it assumes that you are the property of your parents, even as an adult.Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-74431366066895126022007-03-28T12:37:00.000-04:002007-03-28T12:37:00.000-04:00I think it's always slightly difficult when you ne...I think it's always slightly difficult when you need to explain why you have made a decision that doesn't fit the status quo. <BR/><BR/>I wish I had given my kids my last name outright, instead of giving it to them as a second middle name. I talked about this with my 8 year old the other day and she informed me she planned on using MY last name from now on because she "likes" it better.<BR/><BR/>I agree it's fun, or healing, even, to change your identity - if you want to, if you want to disassociate from your previous identity. It's just unfortunate that the main way of changing your name is to take the husband's name. Why not just make up an entirely new name? The history/pattern is you take your husband's identity (and symbolically give yours up) and that sucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-40310932326103359632007-03-28T12:28:00.000-04:002007-03-28T12:28:00.000-04:00I think it's just hard to correct someone, period ...I think it's just hard to correct someone, period -- no matter which way they lean!Mayberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342826784650208124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31542820.post-35637698652916862802007-03-28T11:38:00.000-04:002007-03-28T11:38:00.000-04:00We all just want to be loved, baby!Which I think w...We all just want to be loved, baby!<BR/><BR/>Which I think was at the root of my own decision to actually take my husbands name. But, not really. See, in our area you can "assume" your husband's name. So, I can legally be Mrs. Sean or Mrs. Leanne, whatever I prefer. I publish under my own name and I'm known socially under my married name and I'm pondering whether to begin getting all renewable id type cards in my married name or not. <BR/><BR/>For me, I thought the idea of changing my name was kind of fun. Why not. Sorta like changing your hair colour! Haha!mamaloohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16008463722100685824noreply@blogger.com