02 September 2008

The Grass Is Not Greener, Just Different: A Perfect Post

Periodically, there's a swirl of posts and writings and sniping and bitching about the great divide between stay-at-home mothers and work-out-of-the-house mothers. Someone feels dissed, someone else feels superior, and it's all just posturing and talk, because we're all mothers and we're all individuals and there's no right way to do anything.

I read a post recently from a woman, the mother of two little ones, who has just re-entered the workforce - so she's switched from the SAHM side to the WOHM side. And one paragraph in that post just blew me away:

And so, you stay at home moms out there, the ones who are desperately seeking the outlet of the working world, and thinking that that patch of grass will be so much greener than your own.....I have news for you. I have news for all of you, working and stay at home moms alike, neither side is greener. Neither is easier. Neither is better. In the end, they're just different patches of grass, equally difficult to navigate, equally demanding, but entirely different.

For just those few sentences, I'd like to award a Perfect Post to Danielle from Cacklin' from Cackalackie.

The Original Perfect Post Awards 08.08

For more Perfect Posts, vist Suburban Turmoil and/or Petroville.


Mad said...

It's so sad, really. To think of him living there all alone after his brother died.

Danielle said...

You have made my day! Thanks for my first perfect post award. Thanks so much!
One of these trips back home, I'll have to get in touch with you and maybe you'll grant me the pleasure of taking you out for coffee.
In the meantime, thanks for making me smile.

FreshHell said...

Yeah, the patches are different and so are we. Even if I'd had the opportunity to stay at home, I don't think I could have done it. I've worked since I was 14 and have never been comfortable relying on someone else for my welfare. I'd have to work to some degree. Just the way I was made. I have a job that allows a bit of flexibility and I'm home by 5:30pm. My kids have only prospered by being in childcare/preschool. I wouldn't have my patch be any other way (though I'd really like to have Labor Day off).

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Definitely the truth!

Janet said...

Great story.

We have a lot of older neighbours. They aren't much on socializing but they are inherently kind, bringing over homemade lemon loaf and hand-knitted Barbie clothes when my husband clears their driveway. Another insisting that we take our kids for a spin in his new sports car. it's a good, good place to live.

Anonymous said...

That was so well said and true. We are always looking for something different but have to realize every way has its challenges.

Anonymous said...

I love it. It makes me want to start up my lawnmower.

Anonymous said...

Congratulations Cacklin'! It's such a true statement.

Anonymous said...

Amen to that!

Anonymous said...


And you are an angel for recognising her post.