The Grass Is Not Greener, Just Different: A Perfect Post

Periodically, there's a swirl of posts and writings and sniping and bitching about the great divide between stay-at-home mothers and work-out-of-the-house mothers. Someone feels dissed, someone else feels superior, and it's all just posturing and talk, because we're all mothers and we're all individuals and there's no right way to do anything.

I read a post recently from a woman, the mother of two little ones, who has just re-entered the workforce - so she's switched from the SAHM side to the WOHM side. And one paragraph in that post just blew me away:

And so, you stay at home moms out there, the ones who are desperately seeking the outlet of the working world, and thinking that that patch of grass will be so much greener than your own.....I have news for you. I have news for all of you, working and stay at home moms alike, neither side is greener. Neither is easier. Neither is better. In the end, they're just different patches of grass, equally difficult to navigate, equally demanding, but entirely different.

For just those few sentences, I'd like to award a Perfect Post to Danielle from Cacklin' from Cackalackie.

For more Perfect Posts, vist Suburban Turmoil and/or Petroville.

A Little Verklempt

I tend towards the stoic, I tend to hide my emotions. I'm private and I don't share. For years, the many years between our marriage and my pregnancy, people would ask "so, are you going to have children?" and I'd deflect, "oh, we have cats". I never answered the question - it was way too personal and I really didn't want to share that pain of childlessness with anyone. When I finally allowed as to how we were trying, what with all the infertility treatments, people - including close family - said "we thought you didn't want any kids."

Well, I'd never said that.

This is kind of a long way around to the fact that I am a little verklempt that a couple of posts of mine have been singled out this week by different people, and I want to say "thank you". It means a lot to me, it really does.

The Hotfessional dubbed On Marriage a "perfect post", and if you'll go read her post about my post, you'll understand why.

Julie wants to repost the same piece on Momocrats.

And someone - I don't know who - picked up Playing Round the Garden Trees for the Stirrup Queens Roundup Extravaganza. The roundup, in a nutshell: Each blogger was assigned a single blog to read from July 2007 to July 2008 and they chose a single post that spoke to them--that became their favorite. To my anonymous reader - thanks, I liked that post too, and I'll probably dig up some more little shrubs tomorrow.

All of you, you that read, you that write, you that comment, you that support - thank you.