18 April 2009

Relay

Later today, we're having a memorial party for my mother. We've laid in rather a lot of wine, some spirits, much cheese and many crackers. The house is already full of people, and countless more will arrive in dribs and drabs all afternoon. We're expecting that many of them will want to walk through the house, the house that was my mother's life work in a way, a house she restored and decorated and filled with all manner of antiques and whimsy and spare parts. So we've fluffed and tidied, and my sister is outside cutting forsythia, which is in full bloom right this very minute.

It rather breaks my heart that Moky retired at 65, only to be diagnosed with metastasized lung cancer at 69, and to die of that cancer at 73. She had so much more to do - more things to knit and sew, more pictures to frame, more shrubbery to prune, more books to read, more places to visit. Instead, slowly, inexorably, her light went out.

Relay For LifeIn a couple of months, my sister will again walk in the American Cancer Society's Relay For Life. It's her way of honoring our mother, and her father-in-law, both of whom recently died of cancer.

If you have a reason to do so - and who doesn't - won't you support Relay For Life? Clicking on the luminaria will take you to my sister's page. I'll thank you, and she will, and maybe your donation will help kick cancer's ass.

21 comments:

Woman in a Window said...

There was most definitely nothing fair about that. I hope the get together is a good one, with lots of memories to celebrate.

slouching mom said...

I hope that the gathering is joyful, in its way. A celebration of a life well lived.

xox

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

I hope you have a wonderful day-- a memorial can really be a joyous occasion in its own way.

MsPrufrock said...

Best of luck to your sister in the walk. I think that are there are so few things we can do for people who have/have had cancer, that this is a good way of doing what we can.

I'm doing a Cancer Research UK 10K run in July - my vain attempt to honour my family members who have passed away from cancer.

I'm sure the memorial party will be awash with good memories.

Anjali said...

It's not fair, at all.

kathy a. said...

thinking of you, and mokie. xoxox

Mental P Mama said...

Cancer sucks. It made me an orphan way too soon as well....I hope your celebration gave and continues to give you comfort.

Kyla said...

I hope the day was a good one, remembering the life she lived, celebrating the her walk through this world.

Gwen said...

It doesn't seem fair that she had so little time to enjoy her retirement. I hope you had a good day, one full of healing memories.

jen said...

for you babe, anything.

Ozma said...

That is sad. She had so much more life to live and so much more to do.

I'm sorry.

I hope the service and the visitors and the talk will be nice. Grief is a long, hard river. It has these strange ebbs and flows. I guess the only thing to do is to ride it. I don't know. It sometimes helps to have other people there, to witness who you've all lossed and how much more that person had to give. To feel the love with, even if the person isn't there. It still hurts.

I hope they kick cancer's ass soon.

Ozma said...

Lost, that is.

Lossed. I need to find a use for that one.

I also wanted to add: I love 'Moky.'

Marty, a.k.a. canape said...

I hope it all went well and that you felt like your mom was celebrated.

well read hostess said...

Our high school has a HUGE relay for life event. I'm thinking I'll be getting an extra luminaria this year for your mom.

Rachel said...

I'm so sorry about your mom. I hope you're able to enjoy the company and thanks for linking to RFL, definitely a worthy cause.

Mayberry said...

I hope it was a lovely day, in its way.

Janet said...

I hope the party went well and was filled with memories and love :-)

Aunt Becky said...

Thinking of you all.

phd in yogurtry said...

My son is walking relay for life this friday night and has already raised $400. Last year he got rained out and I had to pick him up at 1:30am.

LAS said...

I too am walking in the Relay for Life this year in Michigan!

MadMad said...

Just catching up here, but I'm so, so sorry to hear about your mom. I know the last months weren't easy, but death is no easier for being expected, and I don't think we ever stop needing our moms. Big hugs. Hope the memorial was a fitting tribute - and I love the blue hair!