07 February 2012

Lavender teardrops

Yesterday morning, I put on a pair of earrings, thinking nothing more than I need dangly today since my hair's pulled back. From time to time during the day, I fiddled with them, feeling the facets of the little glass drops, swinging them on their silver hooks.

Late in the afternoon, I heard that Susan had died. And all of a sudden, it came to me. I'd bought the earrings on Etsy, from a woman that Susan had blogged about, another mother with cancer. Susan was trying to help her, because that's who Susan was.

The first time I met her was at the BlogHer conference in 2008. She made me cry. My mother was in hospice care then, dying slowly of lung cancer, and Susan found exactly the right thing to say. Because that's who Susan was.

Susan gave advice freely and without sentimentality - like in this post about hair loss and hats, which inspired me to buy a Buff wrap for my mother.  She educated countless people about inflammatory breast cancer, the kind that can present without a lump. She was a rocket scientist, with a PhD in Physics. And she mothered her two little boys, and loved her husband, and lived her life with joy, because that's who Susan was.

The world is a smaller place without her.

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If you'd like to honor Susan's memory, consider making a donation to the Inflammatory Breast Cancer Research Foundation. Or do what her husband suggested: "Please choose to make a difference somewhere, anywhere, to anyone." Because that's what Susan did.

16 comments:

Anjali said...

Done.

I didn't know of her, or about her, until she was very near death. And I'm sorry for that. She sounds like she was simply extraordinary.

liz said...

Amen.

mayberry said...

Those earrings are beautiful, and so are your words.

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

It is true that the blogosphere is diminished by her absence. It's so sad.

Harriet M. Welsch said...

So sad to hear. And beautifully said.

MemeGRL said...

Thank you for posting this.
My best friend is living with IBC and met her through their advocacy together. Thank you so, so much for posting that link to the IBC Research Foundation. It is their work that gives women like Susan and my best friend more time with their loved ones.

And those are great earrings.

RuthWells said...

I'm so sorry.

snozma said...

This is not someone I was aware of until very recently but she must have been very remarkable--I've never read such admiration for a person, even people who die.

It makes me very sad.

What is the right thing to say to someone whose mother is very sick and in hospice? It is something I want to know and do.

kelley @ magnetoboldtoo said...

broken hearted

xx

Kate @ UpsideBackwards said...

A beautiful post, about a beautiful person. Thank you. <3

Bibliomama said...

It's true that the world is smaller without her - but what a legacy. You said it very well.

Carol Steel 5050 said...

Well and lovingly written. You capture the beauty and angst of her life.

Mental P Mama said...

She really was an exceptional person. Beautiful tribute.

readersguide said...

So very sad --

Mary said...

I am sorry for your loss.

Sarah said...

I miss her voice. I miss her smile.